Love Sucks!!! You must be thinking I have just been jilted or damped by some guy, but oooh no this is not it.

This being the month of love, every normal woman is looking forward to receive some kind of love token from their better half, partner or that individual they consider loves them more than their own life.Well this is what we – women whether believers/converts in love want to belief, with love nothing is impossible. Lets face it life without love is a lemon.

What brought on this blog post? An desperate sms from a good friend, it went like this: –

I have a problem, am in love with a man who wants us to move this relationship to the next level, only he is married. I love him so much what do I do?

Yeah I know what you are thinking, move on he is married, by the way this lady too is married. I refused to be holier than thou and for my friend to have come to me,risk being judged she was in a real dilemma. She needed to be told that what she already knew was wrong was actually wrong. At times when a woman reaches out to a friend, she just wants to hear what her conscience was already saying  voiced by someone else.

Thou Shall not Judge

Before you jump into castigating her, let me give you a bit of background info on her marriage. My friend has been married for the last 8 years. This is period of time her husband has had several lovers, whom he does not bother to conceal, they have three children so the lady feels obligated to stay for the sake of her children.

Yes, Yes!!!This does not give her the right to go out and do the same. Of course the society doe not cordon this behavior from a  woman, though acceptable for a man in this male worshiping society.( forgive my distaste)

Back to my friend’s dilemma, in response this what I told her to do

Evaluate what this relationship means to you, define what this feeling of “love” for this guy really is? Is it lust for what you are not getting at home? What about this guy what is it that he is really offering in his declaration for his “love” for you.

We all know what happens when we are in love so in lust, our brain and heart are in two different hemispheres. so I needed her to kinda make her brain check out what her heart was saying and find some middle ground from which to make a sound decision.

You too have been here

Truth be told, every woman has at one time (others more) being in love or lusted after a man they shouldn’t, how did you overcome it. What advice would you give a friend, sister, daughter, workmate without sounding holier than thou?

Feel free to post your comments and lets support each other otherwise for some of  us, Love Sucks.

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Pauline is the CEO at Allen Cole, also consults for iWork and Elite Writers Hub. She works with small and medium size organizations to increase their visibility online through corporate blogging, content creation, website development and social media engagement.